Feeling the sad times as well as the good in Eleuthera….

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Usually my blog is pretty upbeat, bringing you good news of what we have been up to and what is happening – but this week I am feeling the sad times as well as the good here in Eleuthera….. Often on social media everything looks good and positive but we all know that our lives are also interspersed with terribly sad things happening to those close to us as well as ourselves. So this week I felt it was important to acknowledge some of the sadness around at the moment.

Through my meditation practice I have learned to be with those feelings and experience them rather than trying to evade them ….. Although that is a pretty normal response !

The terrible news of the bombing of the Manchester Arena in England has hit particularly hard – so strange that news like that has hit me harder than when it happens in other countries. I’m not sure that it should but it has…..

And around us we have close friends going through all sorts of distressing situations – my heart is heavy for them all.

Just how I feel right now.....
Just how I feel right now…..

I am putting in this picture of a rather sad and sorry looking sunflower because for me they are a symbol of hope and optimism. I have been told on several occasions – when I say that they are one of my favorite flowers – that they are brash and cheap and vulgar – but you know what – I don’t care ! When I see a huge field of sunflowers turning their faces to the sun it makes me smile. And we all need things that we know will make us smile……

So this rather sorry looking one sums up how I feel right now – a little wilted and rather battered around the edges  – but still looking at the sun……

Fabulous sunflowers when we renewed our wedding vows in December 2009
Fabulous sunflowers when we renewed our wedding vows in December 2009

I had sunflowers as my wedding bouquet – well more of a posy actually in 1994 – and again when Bob and I renewed our wedding vows here in Eleuthera in 2009, so when I saw through our kitchen window the above one bravely holding on I decided that it would be the symbol for me of how things are right now……

A lovely picture - full of happiness and smiles with dear friend Nancy Breedon von Merveldt
A lovely picture – full of happiness and smiles with dear friend Nancy Breedon von Merveldt

So speak out about your sadnesses – don’t pretend that everything is always rosy …. We need to fully experience and share the pain as well….. And in the midst of it all find time to be with friends and smile …….

A visit to The Cove for a great Sunday lunch - with Mary Pattison and Joy Agius
A visit to The Cove for a great Sunday lunch – with Mary Pattison and Joy Agius

Rudge of course deserves a mention this week – he continues to bring us both joy and frustration – but he is a lovely boy and his early morning need for a little extra love and cuddles starts my day off well. I have never known a dog love his toys so much and he thoroughly enjoyed his last new chew toy – although it didn’t last too long !

Having a great tug of war !
Having a great tug of war !
Goodness - rather the worse for wear - this took about 30 minutes !!
Goodness – rather the worse for wear – this took about 30 minutes !!

With love to you all xx

11 thoughts on “Feeling the sad times as well as the good in Eleuthera….

  1. Dear Kathy,
    We are all interconnected. I feel the horror that you do too . When something terrible like the Manchester bombing happens the sadness and astonishment affects us all – just as it happened in Paris and in the U.S. too. I still maintain hope for world peace as I truly believe the majority of people on the planet all want the same for themselves and everyone else too – peace, prosperity and serenity . Here are two links to find out more. Sustainable Development Goals – http://Www.globalgoals.com
    https://sustainable development.un.org/post2015/transformingourworld

    We will be back on Eleuthera Dec 24 – Jan 5!!!

    1. Lovely – thank you. I will check out those links later – and we are thrilled that you will be here for Christmas and New Year – really looking forward to seeing you both again. XXX

  2. “Prosperity, pleasure and success, may be rough of grain and common in fibre, but sorrow is the most sensitive of all created things. There is nothing that stirs in the whole world of thought to which sorrow does not vibrate in terrible and exquisite pulsation. The thin beaten-out leaf of tremulous gold that chronicles the direction of forces the eye cannot see is in comparison coarse. It is a wound that bleeds when any hand but that of love touches it, and even then must bleed again, though not in pain.” Oscar Wilde

    1. Thanks Alex. Thanks Kathy . Our literary and musical influences touch us in ways far deeper than most others I find to help us process these sorrows so well brought to the surface here.

      1. That is so true – to find comfort in words or music that people have written is a reminder that others have – and do – feel the same sorrows as us…… Thank you ……

  3. What a special blog. This is Susan, Judy and Joe from LI NY. We’re back from Exuma the Grand Isle Resort. We meet a fellow Eleutheran the nicest guy who knows you. He is the assistant general manager there, Jamiel Gibson Clarke. He said to mention his aunt, Thelma Burrows. What a small world. I got him hooked on you blog and he has read them all going back 2 years! He said he sent you an Email. It was a beautiful place and weather was great. BUT Eleuthera is still my #1. Hope to see you soon. Stay well. Lol

    1. Oh hello my dear friends ! It is a small world isn’t it ….. I haven’t seen the email yet from Jamiel but I’m sure I will soon…. Thanks for spreading the word about the blog and thank you for still loving Eleuthera the best !! Love to you all xx

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